Once again, I’ve not posted in a while. A really long while.
There are a lot of reasons for that. Work. School. Life. And Harper has done really well through all of the busyness of everything, so I’ve been holding on to that and feeling “normal” again.
It’s funny to me the “normal” things that we once took for granted are now big steps. We’ve made it a couple of months with just her regular therapies and no doctor’s visits. She had a good report card without an extensive amount of extra work or tutoring. She’s participated in school parties, festivals, and musicals. I was able to stop using a checklist to help her remember how to get ready in the morning or at bedtime. She even started sleeping in her own bed in our room instead of beside me in my bed! I began to rest easier at night, to not analyze her every move, to loosen the reigns a bit and let her be a kid. It was good.
Things were going so well that I reached out to her doctor in Baltimore to ask about postponing her next appointment in January. She agreed.
And the very next day the seizures came back.
I’m not going to lie- I’m kind of mad about it. Actually, I’m really mad about it. Just like that I’m back to watching her every move. I listen for the rhythm of her breathing to change in her sleep. We’re falling back on checklists to keep her on track and helping her get dressed and reminding her of where things are or what she was just doing. Easy things are becoming more difficult again and her memory seems to be failing her again.
I see her frustration. I see her confusion. I feel her fear and anxiety as she loses control of her body. Last night I held her on the bathroom floor when she should have been snuggled in her bed and I watched her face contort in pain and her muscles twitch involuntarily and I wanted to scream for her. It is not fair!
I hate this disease. I hate what it does to my baby’s body and her brain. I hate the toll that it takes on our family. Yes, hate is a strong word, and it isn’t one that I toss around lightly, but tonight I feel it.
I know that we are the blessed ones. It could be worse, so much worse. We’ve experienced worse, and we see those who live with worse every day. I don’t take that for granted.
But tonight I’m mad. I don’t doubt the goodness of God and I don’t doubt that He is working a plan greater than me and my feelings. I know that my girl brings glory to Him and that ultimately she is His. I have hope that this is not it, that we will see complete healing. But in this moment I feel angry.
And I share that not for pity. I’m not looking for a pat on the back, nor do I need anyone to tell me that I’m wrong. I put this out there to encourage someone else who doesn’t understand the why, who feels angry or frustrated or disappointed, who keeps waiting for that prayer to be answered, who is weary and worn, who feels alone or unnoticed.
You’re not alone. And feeling those feelings does not make you any less. I understand. Our paths may be different, but I get the emotions and the thoughts and the feelings.
Better yet, He knows. The Maker of the heavens and the earth knows your every thought before you even think it. He has formed you and given you purpose, and He loves you with a love like no other. He is good. He is mighty. He is faithful and just. He hears you, He sees you, and He is with you.
In that truth is where I find my rest tonight. I’m praying you do the same, friends ❤️
“He is the Rock, his works are perfect, and all his ways are just. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just is He.” (Deuteronomy 32:4)
“O Lord, you have searched me and you known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up you discern my thoughts from afar... You hem me in behind and before, and lay your hand upon me.” (Psalm 139:1, 5)
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Heather you and your family are very very strong to weather the storm when it keeps hitting unexpectedly. God will provide for you even though it is difficult to see when you are in the trenches of bring Harper ‘back’ . Hang in there and don’t waver from the strong spirit you have been given to do whatever needs to be done for you and your family. Harper is beautiful and has conquered so many of the goals you set up for her.